In third grade I was already pretty bold. My “little” sister (20 months my junior) was having some trouble with her first grade teacher. I decided that I’d intercede. In hindsight, that might not have been the wisest choice.
I found Miss McKensey (a young, cute, new teacher) in her empty classroom during recess. I went in and told her that my sis was having a hard time and basically to back off. She didn’t take it as I had hoped.
I was sent home with a note to my parents, who had to go sit down and listen to this woman’s complaints about my perfectly reasonable request. Needless to say, my mom and dad were not pleased.
Years later I had countless experiences in which my daughter boldly shared her opinion with teachers, school nurses, coaches and doctors. I don’t believe in Karma but somehow God was trying to teach me a lesson. Each new occurrence required an embarrassing conversation for me and another opportunity for my daughter to apologize and learn lessons I still stumble over.
Some people simply won’t stand up for themselves. They meekly accept whatever life (and human beings) throw at them. Those folks don’t necessarily have to be taught humility and boundaries of speaking their minds.
This is not the case with my daughter and me. We both have logical minds and expect others to follow our way of seeing things. When they don’t, we want to help them “get it.” So we go about enlightening them.
I have learned that there are many varied ways of viewing the world and that most often, it’s not my job to assist people in their perspectives. I’ve also learned that I have to respect boundaries and authority. My daughter is an adult and she has caught on to this much faster than I did, thankfully.
What neither of us will hopefully forget is the ability and timing of encountering problems and disagreements with people in a bold, direct, respectful way. Balance is hugely important when it comes to being bold. If you tip too far to either side you fall off the rails.
Jesus perfected the balancing boldness act. If you open your mouth too fast or too often and need a reminder- look to His example. If you allow people to walk all over you- His experiences will model how to change.
Where do you fall on the boldness scale?